Ok…I have a wonderful boyfriend. He loves me. Actually he adores me. And he is very very aware. He is 1/4 Native American, but passes well as a dark haired, dark eyed white person.

He is constantly checking his privilege. And, I love that.

HOWEVER… He is having a little trouble acknowledging his able-bodied or …I don’t know the proper term…..privilege, when I first brought it up to him.

I have a step sister. I adore this girl. We’ve become so close recently. She is mentally handicapped. She also stutters VERY badly.

Abe and I took her out for her birthday, and her ID was expired so two places wouldnt allow her to buy drinks, despite her being over 21.

Anyhow…..Abe kept insisting that she speak to the door people who check IDs and just tell them “hey, I know im from out of state..but heres my birthday” and then point at her birthday so that they will be less inclined to actually see that the ID is expired.

She tried to explain that she couldnt do that because she was very afraid to speak to strangers due to her stuttering problem and he just kept insisting that she speak to the door people checking IDs.

I have tried to explain the concept of his privilege in this aspect and he is having a tough time CHECKING his privilege. At first he had a tough time understanding able-bodied privilege, etc. He quickly began to understand but is having a lot of trouble checking his privilege or even realizing when hes said something potentially hurtful or privileged.

How can I better explain this to him? I always just say “Nope. Check your privilege” and he is ALWAYS open to listening and understanding….but I am having a tough time explaining.

Any help?

  1. privillagepeople reblogged this from helloimlulu and added:
    Your loss.
  2. helloimlulu reblogged this from privillagepeople and added:
    Priv….You’re a troll blog and I really just…. Don’t care what you think. Sorry dude.
  3. tryingtomakesenseofpeople reblogged this from helloimlulu and added:
    Oh my god. People actually say “Check your privilege” in public real life? HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
  4. what-would-marx-do reblogged this from helloimlulu and added:
    Ummm, what the hell is wrong with the haters… they’re focusing on irrelevant stuff and missing the point completely
  5. callmetherovingjewel reblogged this from privillagepeople and added:
    Yeah, she probably SHOULD be comfortable talking to people. But she’s not. And pressuring her into a situation she’s...
  6. khutuluns-bow reblogged this from neverendinginquiry and added:
    Its also pretty annoying for someone to constantly tell you to “check their privilege”. I try my best to be...
  7. judal-is-my-spirit-animal reblogged this from neverendinginquiry and added:
    Yeah, she sounds like an abusive girlfriend. She’s probably already emotionally manipulated her boyfriend into agreeing...
  8. lunavista reblogged this from different-cultures-and-justice
  9. neverendinginquiry reblogged this from judal-is-my-spirit-animal and added:
    I don’t think it’s a race thing as much as she’s just power tripping at him allowing her to tell him how to think, feel,...
  10. nostlenne reblogged this from judal-is-my-spirit-animal and added:
    I knew someone would point that out eventually. But you know, he’s all male and mostly white, so that 1/4 counts for...
  11. squirrelforreason reblogged this from helloimlulu and added:
    How about you encourage your step-sister not to be nervous about it? And, that while it might be difficult, that it...